Friday, December 15, 2017

TRUE LOVE


True Love

Many years ago my true love bought me a guitar. The first finger-picking song I learned was Scarborough Fair made popular in 60s by Simon & Garfunkel. Are you going to Scarborough Fair?/Parsley, sage, rosemary, and thyme/Remember me to one who lives there/For she once was a true love of mine. Then he makes a list of impossibilities for her to complete before he will accept her again as his true love. For example, she’s to make him a shirt without a seam or fine needlework. Apparently some of the lyrics were inspired by an earlier Scottish ballad called Elfin Knight which contains the following line: ‘For thou must shape a sark to me/Without any cut or heme,’ quoth he. Regardless of the song’s origin, true love is ordinarily displayed when someone does something seemingly impossible for someone else. We might say then that the true love in the Scarborough Fair song is a conditional love.

Much has been made of the Bible’s usage of the Koine Greek words for love, such as phileo and agape. Some maintain that agape always means unconditional love. However, D.A. Carson in his book Exegetical Fallacies begs to differ. Is God’s love for us a true love, i.e., a conditional love or is it always unconditional? Bear with me here: The Bible has always taught that the way of salvation is through perfectly keeping His Commandments. Impossible? The Pharisees when Jesus walked the earth didn’t think so. They thought they were doing a fine job of keeping the Decalogue, that was until Jesus came along and exposed their sin by saying things like, ‘You have heard that it was said, You shall not commit adultery. But I tell you, that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart’ Matthew 5:27-28. In other words, to get right with God includes our hidden thoughts as well as our words and deeds. So, if getting right with God and getting into Heaven is based on perfect obedience then it’s impossible for us to satisfy God’s conditional requirements. Enter Jesus! God’s true love for His people is demonstrated in Jesus doing the impossible. He perfectly kept the impossible conditions for all who believe in Him. ‘For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life’ John 3:16.

Unlike the Pharisees, and unlike people who are living today who think all you need to get saved is to try to be good or at least less bad than axe-murderers or Adolf Hitler, God has not made it easier to be saved. It is still impossible – unless you have Jesus Christ and His perfect Commandment keeping as you the believer’s Representative. So, Jesus did what neither you or I can do. He kept God’s Ten Commandments perfectly for all who believe in Him. And what was He doing dying on a cross? He was paying what we owed to God’s justice for our breaking of God’s Ten Commandments – in thought and word and deed! True love then is God forgiving our sins for the sake of Jesus Christ. God gave His Son our sins and poured out His wrath on Him in our stead while giving us His Son’s righteousness, i.e., His Commandment keeping.

A seamless shirt? Too easy! ‘Then the soldiers, when they had crucified Jesus, took His garments and made four parts, to each soldier a part, and also the tunic. Now the tunic was without seam, woven from the top in one piece’ John 19:23. Only God’s love is true love.

Thursday, November 9, 2017

BEGINNINGS


Beginnings

Has there ever been a better and more profound opening line for a book ever written, than ‘In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth’? In this majestic opening verse of the Bible we have the beginning of all beginnings! Here we have the beginning of space and time and matter. We might say it something like this: Before the beginning there was only the eternal Triune God who began time by creating and placing matter into the space He had created. How did the Triune God do it? The Father spoke His Word and by Their Spirit things that were not became things that are. What did He create? Space, time and matter. Where? There was no where before the beginning. Why? For His own glory. When? ‘In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth.’

Some have been known to ask, that if God created all things, then who created God? When did God begin? God has no beginning and has no end. God always was, always is and always will be, which is to say that God is eternal. Others ask when did the Trinity begin? At the beginning the Trinity (i.e. the plurality of Persons, Hebrew Elohim), He created (singular verb bara) the two heavens and the one earth. Therefore, the word ‘Trinity’ is simply a word we use to describe the eternal God who was, is, and always will be the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit.

God is the great beginner of all things. Therefore all things ought to begin with God. Even God begins His written revelation with God, as in ‘In the beginning God…’ For example, when studying God and the things of His creation some Christians begin at Christ’s cross and resurrection. However, if one were to begin with God one would begin to see that all things in creation reflect their Creator. God is Triune (i.e. a plurality of Persons) yet He is One (i.e. a unity). The Godhead is the original One and Many, Unity in Diversity, the General and the Particular.


Peace among people begins with the Godhead. Nations stop studying war and start beating their swords into ploughshares and their spears into pruning hooks when they begin studying the Triune God! For example: America can get so politically divided. Whereas Republicans want unity, Democrats want diversity. Division! But is the Godhead divided? Does the One lord it over the Many or the Many over the One? Does diversity trump unity or does unity trump diversity in the Godhead? No! There is peace and harmony in the Godhead because of the equal ultimacy of the One and the Many. Like love and marriage going together like a horse and carriage, ‘you can’t have one without the other.’

Is a family one or is it many? Is a nation one or is it many? Why argue about the obvious? They are both! One of the things written on the Great Seal of the United States is E PLURIBUS UNUM (i.e. out of many, one or one from many). The many individuals have all become one (America). The many nationalities have become one nationality (American). It’s not hard to see how this reflects the Godhead who is many but one, who is diversity in unity etc.

All disputes about all problems of the one and the many or unity and diversity et al are resolved in the Godhead. Begin with the great beginner of all things and you won’t go wrong ‘For the fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom; a good understanding have all those who do His commandments. His praise endures forever’ Psalm 111:10.


Thursday, October 26, 2017

RELIGION


Religion

Candlewax, chanting monks in hooded cloaks with voices echoing off cold-brick walls in monasteries. This is what the word ‘religion’ brings to my mind: monks and monasteries! To be sure, it could just as easily be Muslims and mosques or any others involved in religious rituals in religious buildings. Yes, ‘religion’ is one of those funny words that can mean different things to different folks. I heard one preacher say that when he was converted his mates started saying that he had found religion. But he maintains that he hadn’t found religion. Rather that he’d found his Creator! I would even contend that Atheism is a just another religion! So, what is religion? Is it all about relics and robes, chants and churches and bats in belfies? Or is there more to it?

Let’s dig a little deeper. An on-line Oxford dictionary uses the expected words such as faith, belief and worship of God or gods to define religion. However, it also includes the following: Religion: ‘A pursuit or interest followed with great devotion.’ We see how hard it is to nail down a precise meaning for the word religion when we consider the following: Many (but not all) Atheists are greatly devoted to removing every last vestige of God from Western civilization! For example, consider the title of the late great militant Atheist Christopher Hitchens’s book, ‘God is Not Great: How Religion Poisons Everything.’ Clearly Hitchens excluded his own form of Atheism from ‘religion.’ So, the question then becomes: What is true religion? True religion is about worshiping God as He is (i.e. Spirit) the way He wants (i.e. in spirit and in truth, Exo. 20:2-8). For Jesus gives the following definition, ‘God is Spirit, and those who worship Him must worship in spirit and truth’ John 4:24. Therefore, God is not sticks and stones, lakes and mountains, planets and stars. Nor are these sorts of things to be used as props or aids to worship. Nor should buildings, no matter how ornate. For, when the woman at the well said to Jesus, ‘“Our fathers worshiped on this mountain, and you Jews say that in Jerusalem is the place where one ought to worship.” Jesus said to her, “Woman, believe Me, the hour is coming when you will neither on this mountain, nor in Jerusalem worship the Father”’ John 4:20-21. None of this is to say that there is anything wrong with donning your Sunday best to worship God in a nice church building, but only that garments and garb, spaces and places are things indifferent. For true religion has to do with greatly devoting ourselves to God. One may feel closer to God in a garden than in a building, but whether in a garden or in a building God wants to be worshiped in ‘spirit and truth’ (c.f. Luke 10:27-28).

Spirit and truth are spelled out in the Bible. For example, Jesus said to the Samaritan woman, ‘You worship what you do not know’ John 4:22a. Matthew Henry comments on this: ‘Ignorance is so far from being the mother of devotion that it is the murderer of it.’ Therefore, true religion devotes itself to the pursuit of the knowledge of God. Jesus went on to say, ‘We know what we worship…’ John 4:22b. Thus, true religion is about knowing God, which includes engaging the mind as to how He wants to be served and to be worshiped. 

How is true religion to be practiced? , ‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your strength, and with all your mind,’ and ‘your neighbour as yourself.’ Luke 10:27.

Friday, October 6, 2017

VOLUNTEERS


Volunteers

When I told my older brother in Scotland that I was becoming and Australian Army Chaplain, ‘Great!’ he exclaimed, ‘God’s army is invading the Australian Army!’ God’s army, like the Australian Army, is made up of volunteers. There is no conscription. David, the sweet psalmist of Israel said it best, ‘Your people shall be volunteers, in the day of Your power…’ Psalm 110:3a NKJV. Psalm 110 is called a ‘Messianic psalm,’ i.e., a Gospel psalm. No one enters God’s army kicking and screaming. No one becomes a Christian against their will. Indeed, another version of the Bible renders the same thus, ‘Your troops will be willing on your day of battle…’ Psalm 110:3a NIV. God’s army therefore is made up of volunteers, people who willingly worship and serve God.

I first heard the word ‘voluntold’ used when I was in the army. It describes the idea illustrated in the following sentence. The sergeant major said, ‘I need three volunteers, you, you and you!’ However, there’s none of this regarding the prophet Isaiah. When the Triune God asked, ‘“Whom shall I send, and who shall go for Us?” Then I said, “Here am I! Send me.”’ Isaiah 6:8b. Isaiah was being sent on an onerous mission to rebuke God’s disobedient people.

The enemy strives to remain undetected in modern warfare. From stealth aircraft to missile-loaded drones. No longer do soldiers stand in trenches firing bullets at each other across ‘no man’s land.’ The Christian wars against an invisible enemy too, an enemy who shoots ‘fiery darts’ that can smoulder in any chinks in the Christian’s armour. ‘Put on the whole armour of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places. Therefore take up the whole armour of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Stand therefore, having girded your waist with truth, having put on the breastplate of righteousness, and having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace; above all, taking the shield of faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints’ Ephesians 6:11-18. Who would volunteer for an army that fights an enemy it cannot even see? – such a formidable enemy as Satan and his host from hell? Only those who God has enabled to see the invisible, which is only those who have been born of the Spirit. ‘Unless one is born again he cannot see the kingdom of God’ John 3:3b, such as was Moses, who ‘By faith ... forsook Egypt, not fearing the wrath of the king; for he endured as seeing Him who is invisible’ Hebrews 11:27.

Whether a heavenly host or a detachment of demons both are spiritually recognised. ‘But the natural man does not receive the things of the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him; nor can he know them because they are spiritually discerned’ 1 Corinthians 2:14. In God’s army the faithful wear night vision goggles, enabling the discerning to observe the movements of the forces of darkness as plain as day! (2 Cor. 2:11)

Enlist now! Volunteer! And ‘Be all you can be in [Christ’s] army!’

Thursday, September 28, 2017

THE MEANING OF MARRIAGE


I live in Australia and I have received a letter from the Australian Federal Government asking me to answer Yes or No: “Should the law be changed to allow same-sex couples to marry?”
Like all Western democracies, Australia is a nation of laws. Without the rule of law there is only anarchy and its partner chaos.
We are being asked if we should have the law-makers change the meaning of marriage. Notice the marriage act as it presently stands: “marriage means the union of a man and a woman to the exclusion of all others, voluntarily entered into for life.” (Underlining mine.) Therefore, I am being asked to vote to either retain the meaning of marriage or to change the meaning of marriage.
If we were to do a random survey on a busy street corner asking passers-by the question: “What does the word marriage mean to you?” What sorts of answers would you hear? What sort of answer would you give? Would you hear people say that marriage means the union of a man and a woman to the exclusion of all others, voluntarily entered into for life”? Would you agree with this or would you change the meaning of marriage to mean something else? That is the question we are being sked by our lawfully elected government. We are being asked if we want the meaning of marriage to be changed.
If you want the meaning of marriage changed then you are saying that you are not happy with what marriage means. You are saying that you do not believe that marriage means the union of a man and a woman to the exclusion of all others, voluntarily entered into for life.” You are saying that marriage no longer is “the union of a man and a woman to the exclusion of all others.” You are saying that you no longer want to exclude others but rather include others in the marriage relationship. You are saying that you want to recognize as a marriage: (a) a man and another man, and (b) a woman and another woman.
Thus, we are being asked if we want to change the meaning of marriage to allow same-sex couples to marry. Do you see my dilemma? If I vote to change the law to allow same-sex couples to marry, then marriage (in Australia) no longer means marriage.
So what? Well then, how did your (pretend) street survey go? How were the people you were asking defining marriage? Did you find yourself agreeing with some of them, most of them or none of them? Where did they get their ideas of the meaning of marriage from? From the movies? From romance novels? TV sit-coms? What? More to the point, where did you get your idea of the meaning of marriage from? From all of these? Some of these? None of these? Perhaps you got your idea of the meaning of marriage from Australian Law? What was it again? Marriage means the union of a man and a woman to the exclusion of all others, voluntarily entered into for life.”
The question remains, where did the meaning of marriage as defined in Australian Law come from? 
When Jesus was asked: “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?” “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Matthew 19:3b-6.
Marriage from the very beginning has always been “the union of a man and a woman to the exclusion of all others, voluntarily entered into for life.”
What is your basis for retaining or for changing the meaning marriage? Ever-changing Pop-culture or the never-changing Word of God?

(See also my article on marriage at: 
http://snowofftheben.blogspot.com.au/2017/09/marriage-see-westminster-confession-of.html


Sunday, September 17, 2017

DIVORCE



DIVORCE

(See Westminster Confession of faith chapter 24 paras 5 & 6)

Introduction

Charles Hodge has defined a covenant as a promise suspended upon a condition. Marriage is a conditional promise. Therefore marriage, by definition, is a covenant.

The Bible has a great deal to say about covenants. Indeed God never relates to man unless by way of covenant. God covenanted with man as represented by Adam upon man’s creation. But Adam, mankind’s federal head, broke the conditions of the covenant, i.e., the Covenant of Works, and that is why the world is in the mess it is in today!

Sin entered the world when Adam disobeyed the conditions of the creational covenant. Man separated from God in order to covenant instead, i.e., to have an illicit affair, with the devil. Thus mankind became and is dead in its trespasses and sins (Ephesians 2:1; 5). But the LORD God is most gracious. Indeed He entered the Garden to seek man who sought separation from Him. However, because mankind, in Adam, had wilfully deserted Him, God had grounds to divorce all of mankind. But God is gracious, for instead He announced that He was going to bring about reconciliation. 

However, He did declare that in the process of this promised reconciliation mankind would be separated into two opposing camps. There would be a section of mankind that would remain opposed to God, on account of being united or joined to, and remaining one with the devil. These would therefore receive the penalty for breaking the covenant. That penalty is, of course, everlasting divorce from God – i.e., everlasting death. And there would be another section of mankind (a multitude innumerable, Revelation 7:9) that would be rescued from the devil’s embrace and be reconciled to God. To be reconciled to God is to receive everlasting life.

We see the first announcement of God’s promise to divorce a portion of mankind and reconcile another portion in the words He spoke to the serpent directly after the Fall of man: “And I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your seed and her Seed; He shall bruise your head, and you shall bruise His heel” Genesis 3:15.

This helps us to understand what the separation of the sheep and the goats, the wheat and the tares etc. on the last day (i.e., the Day of Judgment) is all about. There are those who belong to the fallen house of the devil. They are the “seed of the serpent” – i.e., the devil’s “offspring”, mentioned in Genesis 3:15. And there are those belonging to house of the “Seed of the Woman” – the Lord Jesus Christ. These are God’s adopted “offspring”, and will be wed to His Son, Jesus Christ.

In the following we are looking in particular at marital divorce. And already we have seen that marital divorce has come about because of sin. If Adam had not sinned as our covenant representative, then there would be no such thing as marital divorce. But now we live in a fallen world. Therefore there is enmity between people, sometimes even between husbands and their own wives. Sometimes this enmity will lead to marital divorce.

The Divorce Concession

Marriage was ordained by God. But God never ordained divorce. In fact we read in Malachi 2:14b-16 that God hates divorce! In the process of rebuking His people’s unfaithfulness to Him He says: “[T]he LORD has been witness between you and the wife of your youth, with whom you have dealt treacherously; yet she is your companion and your wife by covenant. But did He not make them one, having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly offspring. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth. For the LORD God of Israel says that He hates divorce, for it covers one’s garment with violence, says the LORD of hosts. Therefore take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously.”

Notice at least four obvious things mentioned in these verses: 
1.        The LORD God is witness in marriage. 
2.        A man’s wife is his companion by way of covenant
3.        A man and his wife are one in the marriage covenant. 
4.       The LORD God hates divorce.

I would like us to focus on the fourth point, but first reflect a little on the first three points by acknowledging the fact that there is a spiritual, i.e., a moral, and a legal, and a physical element to marriage.

God witnesses the actions between a husband and his wife. God holds both accountable to their marital oaths and vows. Should one deal treacherously or unfaithfully with the other, God sees it – He witnesses it. Therefore marriage has a spiritual or moral dimension to it in that God is watching the couple’s behaviour. The knowledge that God is watching ought to encourage married couples to behave towards their respective spouses in a God-honouring fashion.

Also, because marriage is a covenant there is also a legal aspect to it. The husband and wife had covenanted, i.e., made a conditional promise to each other. “Till death us do part” was the old way of saying it. Only the death of one or both partners should dissolve the union. The Reformed Book of Common Order puts it this way: “You have taken each other in the sight of God, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in health and in sickness, to love, cherish, and honour, so long as you both shall live.”

So, marital oaths or promises have been sworn to each other. And vows have been made to God. Therefore, those oaths and vows are morally and legally binding. Which is to say that a husband can hold the wife to them, and vice versa.

Also, there is the physical dimension to marriage. The marriage covenant has made the two one in God’s sight. The sex act is the outward physical expression that the two have become one flesh. However, the sex act is more than simply a physical action. It is an engaging of the very essence of the man with the very essence of the woman. In other words, the entire man, body, soul, spirit, mind, emotions etc., in the sex act becomes one with the entire or complete body, soul, spirit etc. of the woman.

Viewed this way it is easy to see why God forbids all sex outside of marriage. For sex beyond the pale of marriage defiles the body God has given us. Which is to say that it defiles the whole man as surely as poison affects the whole man. The Apostle Paul puts it graphically in 1 Corinthians 6:15&16: “Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a harlot? Certainly not! Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For ‘the two,He says, ‘shall become one flesh.’

So we’ve seen then that marriage has spiritual or moral, legal, and physical aspects to it. Likewise God’s covenant with man has at least these three aspects to it. For God held Adam (our representative) responsible for all of his actions in the creation covenant. And we see from even a surface reading of the Malachi 2:14-16 passage (quoted above) that the LORD God holds marriage partners responsible for all of their actions in the marriage covenant.

Now, we’ve noted that the LORD God hates divorce. So, if the LORD God hates divorce, why then does He permit it? The LORD God has given the divorce concession because of sin. We’ve seen already that the LORD God Himself is planning to finally divorce from Himself the “seed of the serpent” (a.k.a. as the “goats” and the “tares”) on Judgment Day.

God is divorcing them, not on a whim, but because of their sin, their spiritual adultery. He has witnessed them break His covenant. Does God have any pleasure in divorcing a portion on mankind? No! The LORD God hates divorce – and so should we. This was the teaching of Jesus when He walked upon this earth. This is why the Pharisees, who are representative of the legalist heart in every man, had a question for Jesus.

We see them test Jesus on the question of marital divorce in Matthew 19:3f.: “The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, ‘Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?’” Notice the word “lawful”, “Is it lawful?” The Pharisees cared only about the legalities of a thing. This alerts us to the fact that they had missed, wider than a long Scot’s mile, the grace of divorce! You know the old adage, “Give them an inch and they’ll take a mile”? That’s the way it was for these Pharisees.

Jesus set the record straight with them: “And He answered them and said to them, ‘Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate” Matthew 19:4-6. Jesus pointed these “seed of the serpent” to the Scriptures – just as He did with their father the devil in the wilderness. They had the Scriptures, the Word of God. The Scriptures witnessed or testified against them.

God had made the man and his wife one flesh – something wonderful! And these men were only interested in how many ways a man could legally divorce his wife! Not being satisfied with His answer: “They said to Him, ‘Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?’ He said to them, ‘Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery’” Matthew 19:7-9.

Don’t miss the point of what Jesus is saying here. The Pharisees are alleging that God instituted divorce. Whereas Jesus is telling them that it wasn’t God, but sinful man, who instituted divorce. Which is another way of saying that God ordained marriage, but conceded divorce because of the hardness of man’s sinful heart. In other words, marital divorce is an act of grace on God’s part. And it is for the protection of the innocent party. But sinful man, as represented by the Pharisees, has taken the grace of God and now uses it as a licence to sin. For that’s what divorce without sufficient cause is – it’s sin!

So, we’ve looked then at the divorce concession, and we’ve seen that it is an act of grace on God’s part. God permits divorce to protect the innocent party in a marital relationship.

The Divorce Case

The Pharisees claimed that Moses commanded that if a man at a mere whim wanted to put away his wife all he had to do was give a certificate of divorce. We see Jesus deal with this wanton Scripture-twisting in His Sermon on the Mount as found in Matthew 5:31&32. In Matthew 5:31 Jesus says, “Furthermore it has been said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’”

Now, before we consider when a divorce case is truly a divorce case, let’s consider the context of what Jesus is saying in Matthew 5:31&32. Jesus has already corrected the Pharisees faulty view of the 7th Commandment in Matthew 5:27f.: “You have heard it said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” So let’s note the important connection Jesus is making between breaking the 7th Commandment – “You shall not commit adultery” and marital divorce – which He goes on to deal with. Adultery begins in the heart. For Jesus says in Matthew 15:19&20, “For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murder, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies. These are the things which defile a man…”

Nigel Lee shows us something of the depth of what Christ, in His Sermon on the Mount, is saying about adultery: “For ‘THOU SHALT NOT COMMIT ADULTERY!’ always meant and still means that every man or woman who gazes at a woman or man for the purpose of lusting after him or her, has already defiled him or her in his or her heart!” (Francis Nigel Lee, “Mount Sinai & the Sermon on the Mount”). Notice that adultery in the heart defiles also the person being lusted after!

After mentioning adultery Jesus immediately goes on to say that if your right eye or your right hand causes you to sin (including even committing adultery in the heart), it is better to lose that eye or hand than have your whole body cast into hell. In other words, Jesus is reminding them and us how terrible it is to lose a part of your own body. But even so it is better to lose just a part of you than to have the whole of you cast into hell-fire.

Don’t miss the connection between this and Christ’s comments on divorce that follow. In marriage, a couple is no longer two but now are one flesh. Therefore to consider divorcing your spouse is akin to considering plucking out your own eye or cutting off your own hand! It needs to be given very, very careful consideration, if considered at all. In other words, marital divorce should be no light and easy thing. It’s not just a question of giving your spouse a piece of paper. It’s a matter of life and death, Heaven and Hell! For you, i.e., the innocent party, would be casting that part of your flesh away and discarding it.

So, having demonstrated the seriousness of transgressing the 7th Commandment, Jesus then tackles head-on the question of marital divorce in Matthew 5:31&32: “Furthermore it has been said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.”

The Pharisees were on about giving certificates of divorce. But Jesus was on about giving grace! In other words, don’t issue a certificate of divorce for any old thing. Make sure it’s for the right reason – i.e., make sure that you are the innocent party. Otherwise, you may be encouraging her to become an adulteress by giving her an illegitimate or unlawful divorce. For, were she to remarry without being legitimately divorced (i.e., in God’s eyes), you would be placing her in an adulterous situation.

A case for divorce can be made only on the grounds of adultery or wilful desertion that can in no way be remedied by church or civil magistrate. We read at the beginning of Matthew’s Gospel that when Joseph discovered that his fiancée, Mary, was with Child, he had it in mind to put her away: “Now the birth of Jesus is as follows: After His mother Mary was betrothed to Joseph, before they had come together, she was found with child of the Holy Spirit. Then Joseph her husband, being a just man, and not wanting to make her a public example, was minded to put her away secretly” Matthew 1:18&19.

So we see that Joseph had concluded that the woman with whom he had covenanted to marry must have become pregnant to another man, i.e., had committed fornication which is forbidden under the “Adultery Commandment”, i.e., the 7th Commandment. However, we know that the angel of the Lord explained to Joseph what actually had happened. However, the point being that we see that this just man had wanted to put away Mary quietly. Therefore we see that sexual immorality and adultery being detected after a contract is entered into, but before marriage, is grounds for the innocent party to dissolve that contract. And, as we’ve already seen, it’s the same for the innocent party after marriage. And when legitimately divorced he or she is free to marry another as if the offending party were dead.

Now, we need to revisit, for a moment, the Pharisee’s question to Jesus regarding Moses and the giving of the certificate of divorce. The Pharisees probably had Deuteronomy 24:1-4 in mind, which speaks of writing a woman a certificate of divorce if the man has found some “uncleanness” in her. The legalistic and graceless Pharisees focused only on the giving of the certificate, and not on the reasons for giving the certificate, i.e., as intended by Moses. In other words, divorce wasn’t simply a question of making sure you gave your unwanted spouse a bit of paper. Rather it was making sure that you had proper grounds for divorce. Thus the certificate of divorce was to protect the innocent party, which is to say that divorce was not to be whimsical – but only upon just cause.

Jesus closed the Pharisaic loophole in Matthew 5:32 by spelling out that divorce may only be given in cases of fornication, i.e., sexual immorality. Though sexual immorality includes adultery, it has a far broader scope. Were adultery the only grounds for divorce then the certificate of divorce Moses spoke of was a death warrant. For death is the maximum penalty for adultery. However, the Deuteronomy 24:1-4 passage assumes that the divorced woman will remarry. Therefore, the “uncleanness” found in her must be broader meaning than adultery as commonly understood today.

Notice Jesus says in Matthew 5:32 that “…whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery…” He’s saying that divorce for an illegitimate reason causes her to commit adultery. Therefore Jesus is presuming that the divorced woman will remarry once divorced. He is not saying that she has already committed adultery, but will be caused to commit adultery if she is divorced for reasons other than sexual immorality.

So, the certificate of divorce Moses mentions in Deuteronomy 24:1-4 was given for the prevention of adultery occurring when sinful men dump their wives for no legitimate reason. Therefore the certificate of divorce is an act of God’s grace. The command was given by Moses to prevent divorce and not to secure it – as the Pharisees erroneously held. So, a case for divorce can only be made for reasons of sexual immorality.

What is included in sexual immorality? The New Testament Greek word is pornea – usually translated as fornication. Now, this is where we really need to be careful, otherwise we may end up like the Pharisees Jesus did battle with. The wicked hearts of men are apt to look for all sorts of reasons how to put asunder what God has joined together in marriage!

Now, the NIV uses the words marital unfaithfulness to translate the New Testament Greek word pornea. This is helpful because the two become one flesh in marriage – of which sexual union is its physical expression (not to mention the spiritual and the legal aspects).

Keep in mind that the fornication or the sexual immorality or the marital unfaithfulness Jesus is speaking of is in the context of marriage and divorce. It means that at least one member is being unfaithful to the marriage covenant. In other words, it means that the person is breaking his or her marital vows. To be sure, marital unfaithfulness is generally of a sexual nature. But we have already noted that the marital union is spiritual or moral, legal, and physical.

Therefore, although adultery is included, the word pornea encompasses a far broader spectrum. It has to do with “unchasteness and is a general word for various kinds of sexual immorality and other perverse rebellion…” (Francis Nigel Lee, footnote 123, “Mount Sinai and the Sermon on the Mount”).

The Apostle Paul in 1 Corinthians 7:15 demonstrates that wilful desertion leaves the innocent party an option of divorce. He is, of course, speaking here of an unbelieving spouse wilfully deserting a believing spouse. And every channel of reconciliation would need to be exhausted before divorce was sought. But the point is that if your spouse has deserted the marriage then you have no marriage. Therefore such wilful desertion is a form of marital unfaithfulness. It certainly deprives the innocent spouse of the affection he or she is due, including sexual affection. So, I don’t think we’re twisting things to state that marital unfaithfulness may also include depriving your spouse of your body without his or her consent, (1 Corinthians 7:4&5).

Therefore, viewed in this way we may (with caution) include wilful desertion under marital unfaithfulness. If “Thou shalt not commit adultery” put positively means, “Be pure and loyal”, then surely it has also to do with sexual purity and sexual loyalty. But we understand that the New Testament Greek word pornea ordinarily refers to sexual disloyalty involving a third party.

In summary, we are stating that God hates divorce, but permits it because of the hardness of men’s hearts. He permits it only in the case of adultery, or more broadly, marital unfaithfulness, or such deliberate desertion that neither the church nor the civil authority can resolve.

Christian couples are not to divorce. However, this is not to say that separation for a time may not be appropriate. But it is to say that Christian couples whose marriages are in trouble are always to seek reconciliation. For is reconciliation not what the Gospel of Christ is all about?

Conclusion

We know that Christians sometimes develop marital troubles like everyone else. Therefore the following quote of Rowland Ward may be helpful. It pertains to wilful desertion by a non-Christian spouse: “Thus we conclude that wilful desertion by an unbeliever after the spouse has become a believer with the intent the desertion be final allows the formal termination of the marriage. This being so remarriage is possible for the one deserted.

“The principle of 1 Corinthians 7:15 would seem capable of extension to cases of wilful and permanent desertion in situations not precisely of the kind noted by Paul, for example by a professing Christian who deserts a spouse (and repudiates thereby his or her own Christian profession) or such cases of cruelty that there is a virtual repudiation of the marriage vows.

“But one should always approach marriage on the basis that there is no easy way out, that vows are to be kept and that work and effort is needed to build and strengthen any relationship. The Bible does not approve divorce; in fact God hates it (Mal. 2:16) but He does allow it as a means of controlling one of the evils sin has brought.” (The Westminster Confession of Faith For the Church Today”, pgs. 175 & 176).

Wednesday, September 13, 2017

MARRIAGE


MARRIAGE

(See Westminster Confession of Faith chapter 24 paras 1-4)[xxxi]

Introduction

It’s claimed that chimpanzees are genetically 98% the same as human beings. In our day when men are marrying men, and women women, what’s to stop a man marrying a chimp?

Marriage seems to be on the rocks at the moment. As the Theory of Evolution is more and more rammed down the throats of each successive generation at school, is it any wonder that the marriage manual is being rewritten? If the universe got here, not by God but by accident, as children at State schools are now being taught, then there is no rhyme or reason to it. Take this belief system to its logical conclusion and why shouldn’t a man take a monkey in marriage? A monkey can be great little helper about the house!

If you believe that the universe is simply the result of random processes, if you believe in the evolutionary marriage of time and chance, then marriage is whatever you want it to be. Therefore, for you, same sex marriages are okay – not to mention man and monkey marriages.

But, the universe does have a purpose. And every aspect of man – spirit/soul/body, including our adenoids and our appendix etc. – has a purpose. The purpose, the chief end of man, i.e., the whole and complete man, is to wholly and completely glorify God and enjoy Him forever.

At the very beginning, when God, in six days, formed the heavens, the earth, the sea and all that is in them, He gave man a purpose and a duty to fulfil. In Genesis 1:26-28 we read: “Then God said, ‘Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.’ So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him, male and female He created them. Then God blessed them, and God said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.’” This is the Cultural Mandate.

The aspect of the Cultural Mandate we’re looking at in the following is called Marriage.

Marital Restrictions

Part of the clear instructions God gave to man in the beginning was the command to “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it.” Multiplying and filling the earth has to do with replicating the image of God. God made man in His own image. Man is to spread the image of God throughout all the earth.

How does man do this? Well, regardless of how amazing it is what they can do nowadays in a petri dish in the science lab, it takes a man and a woman to come together sexually before replication can occur. This is the way God designed it from the beginning. A man and a man cannot produce an offspring the way God designed it. And neither can a woman and a woman, nor a man and a monkey for that matter. It takes one man and one woman to reproduce. Therefore, a marriage will not progress into a family unless the marriage consists of one man and one woman.

Now, let’s not confuse a marriage with a family. A family is an outworking of a marriage. But a marriage is still a marriage even when there are no children. Take Adam and Eve as the prime example. Adam was created first, and then Eve. In Genesis 2:7 we read: “And the LORD God formed man from the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living being.”

So, there was a time when there was only one single human being on the earth. And the LORD God had that one single human being observe and name all the living creatures that He had also formed out of the ground. Genesis 2:20, “So Adam gave names to all cattle, to the birds of the air, to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him.”

When Adam viewed all the animals he knew exactly what they were, which is to say that for Adam, naming the animals meant that he had studied, classified and catalogued them. He could see that God had formed each species according to its kind. In other words, Adam could see and understand the very essence of the living creatures.

The words “But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him” mean primarily that there was no other creature with which Adam could reproduce his own kind. Apes might be good at aping, but apes cannot ape man when it comes to reproduction. Only man (male with female) can replicate man, because only man is made in the image of God.

Adam could see how special he was when he considered all the living creatures God had made. “And the LORD God said, ‘It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him’” Genesis 2:18. What was the helper, that God was going to make, to help Adam with? The helper was to help fulfil the Cultural Mandate, part of which was being fruitful, multiplying, and filling the earth. That restricts things a great deal, doesn’t it? It shows us that the man needs a woman.

Genesis 2:21-24: “And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed the flesh up in its place. Then the rib which the LORD God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. And Adam said: ‘This is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.’ Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”

Now, just as Adam knew what all the living creatures were, so he knew exactly what woman was. None of the living creatures were ‘bone of his bones and flesh of his flesh’ – only Eve. Literally this woman was part of Adam. She had been taken out of his side. Therefore the two literally were one flesh.

Adam was to love his own wife as if she were part of his own body. And Eve was to love her own husband as if he were part of her own body. The Apostle Paul puts it like this in Ephesians 5:28-33: “So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.”

So we see then, that marriage is restricted to being between one man and one woman. God did not take ten of Adam’s ribs and make ten women – He made only one wife for Adam. Therefore it is not lawful for the man to have more wives than one at the same time, or for the woman to have more than one husband at a time. And neither did God take ten ribs and make one woman and nine children. Therefore marriage is still marriage even when there are yet no children.

Now, speaking of children produced by marriage, a common question asked by unbelievers is, where did Cain get his wife? Cain, of course, was Adam and Eve’s second son – right after Abel their first. Calvin, in his commentary on Genesis suggests the Cain and Abel were twins. But that is neither here nor there for what we’re considering.

Now, the reason people ask about Cain’s wife is because of the way we view things nowadays. First off it’s often thought that Adam and Eve only ever had two sons, viz., Cain and Abel. Then, when it is pointed out that Genesis 5:2 tells us that Adam had sons and daughters, therefore Cain married one of his sisters, the accusation of incest is put forth. However, it’s not until you get to the time of Leviticus 18-20 that marital restrictions are spelled out. We see that marrying your own sister is indeed forbidden in Leviticus – which was roughly 2,500 years after Cain married his own sister.

Now, all sorts of sexual immorality is forbidden in Leviticus 18-20, including bestiality. Apes and monkeys are beasts. However, we’re mainly concerned with the restrictions placed upon the marriage between blood relatives and those of affinity in law. (By affinity in law we mean that marriage is forbidden not only between brothers and sisters, fathers and daughters, and mothers and sons, etc., but also between brothers-in-law and sisters-in-law etc.). Even after the death of his wife, the man may not marry any of his wife’s relatives nearer in blood than he may of his own relatives, nor the woman of her husband’s relatives nearer in blood than her own.

Now, you might have felt shock and horror well up within you when you thought about Cain marrying his own sister. But if you keep in mind that Adam married his own rib, so to speak, you won’t go too far wrong. Adam said of Eve, “This is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh…” This is even closer than marrying your own sister! And yet we were not shocked when we thought about this. Why? Well, it’s because we have become accustomed to the restrictions God, 3,500 years ago, placed upon marrying blood relatives. Up until that point God permitted certain marriages He forbids in Leviticus 18. Abraham was permitted by God to marry Sarah, his half sister – with God’s blessing! However, part of the instructions in the Cultural Mandate was to multiply. When mankind had sufficiently multiplied, God placed restrictions on eligible marriage partners.

Now, we’ll mention in passing an apparent exception to the affinity in law restriction. We read in Deuteronomy 25:5 that if a wife’s husband dies, then the dead man’s unmarried brother had the duty to marry the widow. This was to give her a child that her dead husband’s name “may not be blotted out of Israel.” We see this very thing acted out in Genesis 38:8. Therefore it must have been in place long before the Law was given to Moses. But in Genesis 38:8 we read: “And Judah said to Onan, ‘Go in to your [dead] brother’s wife and marry her, and raise up an heir for your brother.” Of course Onan didn’t exactly comply with the whole thing, but that’s another story. The point being made at this point is that it would appear that it may be permissible for a man to marry his dead brother’s wife.

Now, it makes for great common sense for Christians to marry only in the Lord. Not to mention that there are all those verses of Scripture about not being unequally yoked, etc. But we need to be careful not to enter into marriage with anyone who holds to destructive heresies. Therefore, for example, a Reformed Christian, such us we are, is asking for trouble should he enter into marriage with a Roman Catholic. Roman Catholicism believes the Reformed understanding of the Gospel to be anathema!

We must put the Lord first in all things, including marriage. He would have believers marry only believers. Now, this is not to say that marriages between believers and unbelievers, or even marriages between unbelievers are not true or legitimate marriages. However, it is to say that the Lord would have His people be obedient to Him, even in marriage.

Marital Roles

When we talk about marital roles we are simply talking about men being men and women being women, and not so much about who should do the dishes and who should take out the garbage. Marriage was ordained for the mutual help of husband and wife. And it was ordained to increase the human population with a legitimate issue and furnish the church with a holy offspring. And it was ordained for the prevention of moral impurity.


Now, to talk about things such as a “legitimate issue” and the “prevention of moral impurity” is to suggest that the world we live in is not the same as when God first formed Adam and Eve. Indeed this has been the case ever since Adam, through the ready help of his wife, ate the forbidden fruit in the Garden of Eden. Eve was to be Adam’s helper. She was to help Adam stay obedient to God’s commandments. Instead, she helped him disobey God. And now we live in a fallen world. Therefore, because of the moral impurity of men and women, children have been conceived and born into this world outside of marriage.

Now, even though marriage was ordained by God before the Fall of man, it still remains a major part of the Cultural Mandate – which mandate still remains in full force. However, if you’ve ever walked through “The House of Mirrors” and seen your own reflection bend and twist out of shape, so we should expect to see distortions in humanity (the image of God) this side of the Fall of Man.

Man no longer perfectly images God his creator. We’ve noted already that the institution of marriage is under attack in our own age. And therefore it necessarily follows that so are marital roles. It stands to reason that if people think a marriage may comprise of a same-sex couple, then marital roles must be up for grabs too. It means that people haven’t understood the very essence of marriage. Nor have they understood and believed the very essence of a man and the very essence of a woman.

We’ve already noted the very essence of marriage. When discussing the love of a husband for his wife the Apostle Paul, under inspiration of the Holy Spirit, says in Ephesians 5:32, “This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.”

Marriage is a picture of Christ and His Bride, the Church. To revise and rewrite the marriage manual (as some today are trying to do) is to tamper with a creation ordinance. Put another way, to redefine marriage so that anything other than one man and one woman may be married at any one time is to break the Law of Nature. Clearly it’s to break the Law of God – for sin is the breaking of God’s Moral Law.

However, God instituted marriage. Therefore He wrote the manual for it. And God is the One who put the sexual desire in men and women that marriage is designed to satisfy. So, when sinful men rewrite the book of marriage to accommodate sinful aberrations, (i.e., sexual deviations) they are disobeying the Cultural Mandate to provide a legitimate issue for God. (Not to mention the fact that they are tampering with the very essence of humanity)

Homosexual marriage is a culture of death, not life. It takes a man and a woman to bring forth offspring. If Adam had been given another man for a companion instead of Eve, where would we be today? The human race would have died out!

Now, we know that amazing things can be done in test-tubes and petri dishes in science labs. But marriage is about the two becoming one flesh, which includes sexual intimacy. To be sure, a marriage is still a marriage even when not (Roman Catholically) consummated by the sex act. For Adam was really married to Eve before he “knew” her on their honeymoon.

However, it is through the husband and wife sharing their bodies with each other that produces the legitimate offspring that God wants us to produce. Therefore nature itself rules out same-sex marriage, regardless of the wonders of modern science.

The husband has the role of husband to his own wife, and the wife has the role of wife to her own husband. As Paul says to the Corinthians in 1 Corinthians 11:8&9, “For man is not from woman, but woman from man. Nor was man created for the woman, but woman for the man.” Feminists hate the fact that God made Eve so that she could be Adam’s helper. But this is simply to confuse the roles of husbands and wives in marriage. For marriage is for mutual help for husband and wife. In other words, the “helper” aspect of marriage is two-way.

We’ve mentioned already that one of the reasons God instituted marriage was for the prevention immorality, or moral impurity – including sexual immorality. God did not create Adam and Eve as infants or children (i.e., without sexual desire), but as mature adults. Mankind was created with God’s Law written on their hearts (Romans 2:14&15), including the 7th Commandment. “Thou shalt not commit adultery” was written of course in positive terms, such as “Be pure and loyal.” Only adults are able to commit adult-ery. Children are not adults.Therefore children cannot commit adultery.

Not committing adultery or being pure and loyal means also being sexually pure and sexually loyal. Therefore every husband is to be sexually pure and sexually loyal to his own wife. And every wife is to be sexually pure and sexually loyal to her own husband. Therefore this rules out sex outside of marriage and even sex before marriage. How so? Well, it’s because God has ordained marriage for the mutual help of a husband and wife.

Part of that mutual help includes satisfying the sexual desires God has given us. And to try to satisfy those sexual desires outside of the marriage as God has instituted it, is to engage in morally impure thoughts and behaviour. In short, it is to sin; which is to break God’s Moral Law. So, for marriage to work the way God designed it, there needs to be one man and one woman in the marriage at any one time. The male is the husband and the female is the wife.

Now, we hear lots of Christians nowadays brag about having gifts of healing, speaking in tongues, and that kind of thing. Be that as it may, but have you ever heard of any Christian brag that he has the gift of celibacy? We believe that the Apostle Paul, who was probably a widower, had the gift of celibacy. For he says in 1 Corinthians 7:7-9: “For I wish that all men were even as myself. But each one has his own gift from God, one in this manner and another in that. But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; but if they cannot exercise self control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” (Albert Barnes comments: “The word unmarried… may refer to those who had never been married, or to widowers.” Barnes’ Notes on the New Testament).

So, there are some adults whom God has given the gift of celibacy, which is to say that they are like little children again, in that they are free from sexual desire, i.e., burning with passion. The gift of celibacy is a good gift for a husband and wife to have for those times when they are apart for a spell, such as when one of them is on an overseas trip, and that kind of thing.

But regarding one of the main reasons for marriage the Apostle says in 1 Corinthians 7:2: “Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.”

Neither the husband nor the wife wants the gift of celibacy when they are together, unless perhaps there is some physical problem where sexual intimacy has become impossible. And there might of course be times such as that mentioned in 1 Corinthians 7:5. There are times when couples will forgo sexual intimacy, such as for fasting and prayer.

Now, if you keep in mind what marriage is a picture of, you won’t go too far wrong when you try to understand the role of the husband and the role of the wife in marriage. The Apostle Paul in Ephesians 5 spells out the roles in terms of Christ and His Bride, the Church. Wives are to submit to their own husbands, as to the Lord, he says in Ephesians 5:22. Then he explains why: “For the husband is the head of the wife, as also Christ is the head of the church, and He is the Saviour of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let wives be to their own husbands in everything” Ephesians 5:23&24. So you see then, that in order to understand marriage, and even the roles of husband and wife in marriage, you must understand the role of the church in the world. Christ and the church is what marriage is all about.

Therefore the godly wife is a picture of the church. And the godly husband is a picture of Christ. For Paul goes on to say in Ephesians 5:25f. “Husbands ought to love their wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.”

Have you got that? It is the role of the husband to give himself for his wife, which is to say that he is to be about the business of presenting her to the Lord without any spot or wrinkle, i.e., without any moral impurities. In simple terms, the role of the husband is to sanctify and cleanse his own wife with the washing of the Word. The role of the wife is to encourage and let her husband do this. In other words, she’s to treat her husband as if it were the Lord Himself who is teaching her. For is that not the way it is in the Lord’s church? Are we not to be submit ourselves to the Word of Christ as we hear it taught and proclaimed?

Some people think that ecclesiology and church polity are of little significance – “Not a Gospel essential!” is what they say. Well, I put it to you that marriage is a “Gospel essential”. And I say that because the Bible says it! We’ve just briefly noted that one of the reasons God ordained marriage was to furnish the church with a holy offspring. Speaking of a husband and his wife it says in Malachi 2:14b & 15a, “Yet she is your companion and your wife by covenant. But did He not make them one, having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly offspring.”

Christ and His Church are one. A husband and his wife are one. Christ seeks a holy and godly offspring (also 1 Corinthians 7:14). Therefore marriage is a “Gospel essential.” For godly marriages producing holy and godly offspring is every bit as important as the conversion of non-Christians to Christianity. Are not both about the extension of the Kingdom of Heaven on earth? Both are about the Church submitting to Jesus Christ, her Husband, in the Cultural Mandate of which the Great Commission is the latter day fulfilment

Conclusion

Marriage is a wonderful thing that has been ordained by God. Therefore it needs to be entered into with both eyes wide open. It is lawful for all sorts of people to marry – even non-Christian people! But only those who are able to give their reasoned consent should marry. This rules out chimpanzees!

When is a child able to give its reasoned consent? In other words at what age should people be allowed to marry? Well, that will vary, won’t it? Are there any Biblical reasons why those who have reached child producing and child bearing age should not marry? – i.e., those having reached adult-hood?

Culturally we think fourteen-year-olds shouldn’t marry because they’re too young. Surely the Lord would wish only that a couple be able to give their mature reasoned (i.e., adult) consent. Sixteen is young, but perhaps old enough? Eighteen and over sounds about right? Is there a Biblical basis for this, a precedent? Adam and Eve weren’t even a day old when God married them! But they both were mature adults. Even so, that was a special instance, wasn’t it? But the institution of marriage began with God marrying Adam and Eve. Therefore that’s where we need to begin our study in order to fully understand the essence of marriage.